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Still Single; It's ok!

So today I was having a convo with my siblings about the fact that the 3 of us are well over our 30s,

single, and without kids. This is certainly not the norm, at least not from what I've observed; It got me to thinking "what's wrong with us?"

So then came the woe-ing is me-ing, which I did allow myself to do for a while, because it's an emotion I felt and all emotions should be allowed to be expressed, no matter how petty or whatever it may be that you feel. Let yourself feel it...Anyways, I then chose to look at this from a different angle; which brought me to the conclusion that I've been single this whole time because the universe has someone very special in store for me. AND...that my relationship with my Self is still under construction. If you are emotionally furked up, you will attract that reflection to you. I've observed and know many ppl that are in unhappy and/or unhealthy relationships. And literally was told by one person "well I don't wanna be alone so I'm settling for this." O hell naw!! How many of us are settling simply because we're afraid to be alone? How many of us are afraid to be by ourselves? After so many years of ads saying "you're not enough without this product or service or outfit, etc." it's understandable, and I judge not. But it doesn't have to be this way. Once you see the value of You, simply because you are here...again, you are valuable simply because you exist! begin to see clearly through all the static bullshit, and see that you are worthy of love, can set your standards, and accept nothing less than that. We attract who we are, not who we want. This understanding has helped soothe me. And pushes me to continue falling in love with myself.

You have to become the person that you want to attract. This is no easy task, but it is possible. It takes time, discipline, and persistence. Gift yourself with truly valuing yourself and allow the divine selection to be presented to you in divine timing.

Cheers and Blessings!

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